Premarital Counseling

Setting Essential Boundaries in Dating

2024-11-07T12:07:12+00:00October 23rd, 2023|Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Relationship Issues|

When you start a relationship with someone, you’re in an exciting and at times bewildering period of discovery. Not only are you discovering more about the person you’re with, but you’re also finding out more about yourself. Certain people bring out things in us that other people couldn’t, and so it’s likely that you’re finding out more about yourself too. This is why boundaries in dating are so important. As you embark upon this journey of discovery, you must remain true to who you are even as you explore new possibilities and are stretched. That can be a tricky balance to maintain, but it is important to manage in a relationship. When you’re in love with someone, you can be swept up by your emotions and the sheer weight of your intimacy into situations that compromise you. The value of boundaries. Boundaries matter, and one reason for this is that your individuality matters. You are who you are, with your distinct personality, likes and dislikes, things that energize and deflate you, and so much more. Boundaries help you maintain that integrity so that you don’t become a mere extension of another person. You can remain yourself and be able to meet your needs in the relationship. All healthy relationships need boundaries so that the people in them don’t collapse into one another to become an indistinguishable mass. It’s important to set healthy boundaries in dating because that sets the tone for your relationship going forward. If the boundaries you have are unworkable for one or both of you, then it’s likely that you will have the same issue later in your relationship. Some boundaries to set when dating. You can set boundaries around different areas of your life. Sometimes you don’t know that you already have a boundary until [...]

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5 Key Toxic Traits in a Relationship

2024-11-07T12:09:07+00:00August 4th, 2023|Couples Counseling, Family Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Relationship Issues|

The key to a happy life is to have functional and satisfying relationships. Relationships meet important needs such as finding comfort, receiving support, and being able to love and be loved by others. Your work could be going great, but if your relationships are falling apart, constantly embroiled in conflict, or exhibiting toxic traits, you probably won’t feel like you’re flourishing. Having healthy relationships is an important human need we all need to get fulfilled. A person can get trapped in an unhealthy relationship for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, it’s a close relationship like a mother-daughter relationship, or it’s a broken relationship between siblings. You don’t choose your family, and you can find yourself in difficult situations that are hard to escape. In other cases, you can be caught in an unhealthy relationship like a marriage, and children are involved. Extricating yourself from that dynamic is often difficult. Unhealthy relationships can develop over time, or there can be a rapid shift in the relationship caused by something like a chronic illness. Whatever the case may be, being able to tell when a relationship is toxic is helpful. Those warning bells should get you moving toward addressing the issues in the relationship. Signs of a toxic relationship. You might be in a toxic relationship if you see or experience the following: You feel tired or drained after interacting with that person. You feel resentful of the person, but you don’t feel comfortable expressing your feelings. Your self-esteem and sense of worth have taken a dip or dive since the other person came into your life. You’re stressed and overwhelmed, and part of the reason is the sheer amount of time and energy that you pour into the relationship. You feel isolated from other people, and unhappy about your current [...]

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